4. Changes in Appearance & Personality
It’s typical for couples to relax into a routine that includes take-out and sweatpants, and the joy of having nowhere to be but together.
If you were one of those couples, but now your partner has new interest in their appearance, attire and grooming, they may be trying to impress someone other than you. Suddenly making an effort to dress up, work out, get a new haircut or change their facial hair are definite indicators.
New or a different style of underwear, new perfume or cologne, and listening to different music are all red flags too.
5. Changes in Behavior
A major tell of a cheating spouse is a change in behavior.
Shifts can be subtle or extreme. Choosing a defensive stance – including deflecting and projecting, casting doubt, blame and accusations, defaulting to subjectivity, and instilling paranoia – are all common traits of a cheater. An unfaithful partner may also become critical, perhaps out of guilt, or maybe they are comparing you to someone else.
Changes in emotional and physical intimacy are mega clues as well. If your partner is more (out of guilt) or less (out of disinterest) intimate, or you are intimate in a markedly different way (from outside influence), they have likely strayed from the relationship.
Another indicator to watch for is the behavior of your friends. If either you or your partner’s friends behave differently around you or gloss over relationship-related discussion, it’s possible they know something you don’t.
If any of these red flags are present in your relationship, it may be time to definitively find out if your spouse is cheating.
Following your instincts can lead you to unexpected and painful places. You don’t have to journey alone. At Skidmore & Stewart, we offer free consultations – which always include a cost-benefit analysis – and we’re available by appointment 24/7. Connect with us by phone, or at our offices in Rock Hill and Myrtle Beach.